Speak Up but Stay Grounded: How My Mentor Taught Me to Survive in the Workplace

Eva stands on a stage at a podium.

Eva gives a presentation on her work with the Girl Scouts.

February 10, 2014

My mentor, Marla Conley, told me once that as a woman in a still primarily male-driven workplace, you have to be unafraid to ask.

“For a pay raise?” I asked.

“No, for money for Girl Scouts,” Marla continued matter-of-factly. “Although people were confused as to why I wasn’t asking for a pay raise.”

Because she wasn’t afraid to ask, Marla was able to get the law firm where she worked to match her annual contribution to Girl Scouts of Eastern Pennsylvania. Doing good, Marla taught me, should go hand in hand with my other career goals.

I met Marla during my two years as a girl advisor to the Board of Directors of Girl Scouts of Eastern Pennsylvania, where Marla served as a board member. All the board members were amazing, accomplished women, but I asked Marla to serve as my advisor for my high school internship. Sure enough, she immediately agreed.

As a senior in high school, I spent a month at Schnader, Harrison, Segal, & Lewis, Marla’s firm. She brought me to meetings, took me out to lunch so that we could connect in a more informal setting, and explained in detail the extra cases that she took on in the foster care system.

I remember the first time I entered the courtroom to observe a case. Marla was representing three children in the foster care system. She had explained the complexities of the case to me the day before, and in the room she introduced me to the children she was representing. I sat in the back of the room and watched her defend her clients against a brusque young lawyer who seemed callous and indifferent to the actual welfare of the children. While the proceedings were not quite as glamorous as those in Legally Blonde, I felt like I was watching a battle between justice and injustice — and I felt proud to be a mentee of justice.

Too many lawyers, Marla explained later, are anxious only to defend the status quo and work for their own well-being — and it takes another lawyer to stop them. Marla told me the defining moment that convinced her to become a lawyer. She was interning with Cory Booker for the summer, back before he was the mayor of Newark, let alone a senator. Booker was working to take back the city by bringing job fairs and housing pamphlets to the worst drug corners. Marla said that she remembered a hotshot young lawyer walking in and spinning his best legal jargon at Booker, telling him “the law” this and “the law” that.

Marla paused, smiling, and said, “Booker looked at him steadily and said, ‘I don’t know where you went to law school, but I went to Yale. The law says I can do this.’ And that’s when I realized that unless you’re the lawyer in the room standing up for what’s true, whatever the other guy says goes.”

That’s why Marla decided to enter the arena of law — to use the force of law for justice and social good.

Eva with Girl Scouts

Eva (far left) with Girl Scouts

Now at Harvard, I’m taking criminal justice classes to prepare for law school. I hope to be like Marla, to be someone who not only has a successful career but also uses her spare time to take on pro bono cases, volunteer, and pay it forward in her community.

At Harvard, it can be hard to stay grounded in who I am and focused on what I want to change in the world. I often remember one particular moment with Marla, standing on one of the top floors of a tall, glass building in a room full of filtered corporate air, looking down at the street. Marla said, “It’s strange to think that in some cities, lawyers can walk straight from underground to their elevator, without ever setting foot in the actual city.”

I pondered that for a moment, remembering how Marla and I had gone the previous week to a community philanthropy planning session. Everyone in the room looked to her leadership in this venture. She was a force in this world, paving the way for good and for girls.

When I graduate and enter the workplace, I’ll always remember the lessons that Marla taught me: It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. Never be afraid to speak up. And last, the unstated lesson that she demonstrated in everything she did, you must be a mentor and give back.

Meet Fearless Feminist Eva Shang

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This post was written by National Student Advisory Council member Eva Shang, who is generously sponsored by Eileen Shelley Menton.

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1 Comment

  1. Julie Watts says:

    Dear Ms. Shang,

    Thank you for your inspiring article. I always feel encouraged when I witness young women, such as yourself, whom are, “fighting the good fight’.

    Respectfully,

    Julie L. Watts
    Sierra College
    Rocklin, CA

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